Don't deserve to succeed
Deserving success
All normal people usually have the desire to succeed in life or to do something significant. While most people have no problems dreaming about the future or creating future goals some people simply can't do that because they believe that they don't deserve to succeed.
For the first instance this might seem like a weird concept. Nobody ever said that there are any requirements that would make a person qualified to reach success yet those people still think that they don't deserve to succeed.
This belief is considered a complex belief that could form when different events happen together. In this article i will tell you why some people think that they don't deserve to succeed in life.
Why some people think they don't deserve to succeed
- 1) They are just afraid: If a person is too afraid to test their abilities or if they are too afraid to fail then they might avoid trying to succeed. When the subconscious mind if a person finds them too afraid to do something it can help them avoid it using different strategies. One of those strategies could be fooling the person into believing that they don't deserve success in order to prevent them from ever trying to succeed. In other words the feeling that a person doesn't deserve success can be nothing more than a self deception attempt
- 2) They have low self esteem: When a person develops a low self esteem or a negative belief about themselves that states that they are not worthy enough they might start to believe that they do not deserve success. Self esteem creates a sense of entitlement in healthy people. The normal person should feel that they deserve to succeed. But when the person's self esteem becomes too low the person might think that they do not really deserve to be successful or happy
- 3) They acquired false beliefs during childhood: If the parents of the child kept putting the child down then the child might start to develop a belief that they are not that worthy. The critical comments some children receive during childhood can make them think that they are truly not worthy of success. Once a child thinks that something is wrong with them they can grow up into adults who don't believe that they deserve to get anything good in life
- 4) They feel intense guilt: Guilt is a very strong emotion that a person feels when they violate their own values or when they believe they have done something wrong. When guilt becomes so intense it can cause a wide array of problems including excessive worry, OCD and depression. One of the problems guilt can cause is that it can make the person think that they don't deserve to succeed in life
Success Why we follow others
I want to be successful.
A phrase that is said by almost everybody.
It's a basic human nature to want to be successful and to prove yourself worthy. Yet so many people strive with success because of so many different reasons. One of those reasons is not knowing what success is.It's pretty common for a person to look up to the people around him to define his goals and needs without ever taking the time to look deeply inside himself.So many people start a journey towards big goals ,that they don't really care about, just because of peer pressure. After all when a person doesn't really know what he wants he can easily think that he will want what others want.Yes so many people care about money but does this mean that success is all about getting rich?
If you answered this question with 'no' then you got it wrong and if you answered it with 'yes' then you also got it wrong.The right answer is 'it depends'.It depends
In order to know what success means for you a proper level of self understanding needs to be achieved. Why do you think many people feel dissatisfied when they reach some of the goals they were after for years?The answer is very simple, those people didn't really want those goals but they were just following the rules defined to them by other people. If you spent your whole life going after money then became very rich you will still not feel happy if money wasn't extremely important for you.If you don't want to have kids then got married and had three kids because everyone told you that a child will make you happy then certainly you will become miserable.The mistake most people make is that they assume that they are very similar to everyone around them and as a result they pursue the same exact goals others follow only to find themselves unhappy in the end.So what is success?
the right answer is : It depends
It depends on your own very special needs.
It depends on your own unique wants.
It depends on your own personality.There can hardly be success without self understanding
The first step for success is not writing down your goals. The first step for success is knowing what your goals are. Without a proper level of self understanding you will fail to find out what you really want and as a result you might never achieve success.Once you get to know yourself perfectly you will be able to tell the difference between what you really want and what you thought you wanted because everyone else wanted it.If in the end you discovered that you want some of the things that many people want ,such as money and fame, it will still be perfectly right for you because now you know you really want those things.Success is like happines, it depends greatly on who you are. People failed to find one definition for happiness simply because each one of us is different and because what makes a person happy won't make the other happy.Success follows the same rule.
Find out what you want and get it. This is success.The solid confidance program was launched by 2knowmyself.com; the program will either help you become more confident or give you your money back.2knowmyself is not a complicated medical website nor a boring online encyclopedia but rather a place where you will find simple, to the point and effective information that is backed by psychology and presented in a simple way that you can understand and apply.
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